My name is Beth or Bethany. Your call. I was named after the song 'Beth' by kiss because my parents were awesome. I have been gracing the earth with my presence for 20 some odd years now. I am a Mama bear to two absolutely amazing baby boys. They are my best friends and the two loves of my life. I am very much a woman. Proud feminist. Feminist does not however mean anti-feminine. I love the stereotypical girl things. Pretty things, things that make me laugh, things that make me think, having red or sometimes pink hair, tattoos, piercings, Star Wars, Doctor Who, Gore/Horror, zombies, cryptids, monsters (especially frank <3) Mermaids, octopuses(octopi? octopussies?), sharks, basically anything to do with the sea...."I'm not a concept. Too many guys think I'm a concept or I complete them or I'm going to make them alive, but I'm just a fucked up girl who is looking for my own peace of mind. Don't assign me yours."
'Tell me what happens the first time you see a woman naked.'
'The first time you see a woman naked will not be like you imagined. There will be no love, no trust, no intimacy. You won’t even be in the same room as her.
You won’t get to smile as she undresses you and you undress her. You won’t get to calm her nerves with nerves of your own. You won’t get to kiss her, feeling her lips and the edge of her tongue. You won’t get to brush your fingers over the lace of her bra or count her ribs or feel her heartbeat.
The first time you see a woman naked you will be sitting in front of a computer screen watching someone play at intimacy and perform at sex. She will contort her body to please everyone in the room but her. You will watch this woman who is not a woman, pixelated and filtered and customized. She will come ready-made, like an order at a restaurant. The man on the screen will be bigger than you, rougher than you. He will teach you how to talk to her. He will teach you where to put your hands and he will teach you what you’re supposed to like. He will teach you to take what is yours.
You must unlearn this. You must unlearn this twisted sense of love. You must unlearn the definition of pleasure and intimacy you are being taught. Kill this idea of love, this idea of entitlement, this way of scarring one another.’